In Yerevan (Armenia’s capital) there are 24-hour
pharmacies, supermarkets, fast food restaurants. There are also 24-hour flower
shops.
I can understand a situation in which you might need a
painkiller at 3:00 a.m. or have a late night greasy spoon craving, but I’m
having a harder time imagining a 3:00 a.m. flower emergency. Who exactly, I
wondered, is giving these shops enough business that they continue to stay open
through the night?
After three days in the city, I think I’ve figured it
out.
My first hint came quickly, when I looked at the
pedestrians around me, when I, in my flip flops and under the weight of two
backpacks, walked breezily past most of the women on the street. The women here
are some of the best dressed I’ve ever seen—hair perfectly coifed, attire
carefully chosen, makeup applied skillfully, recently manicured and
pedicured—and when standing still, they look like beautiful works of art. They
tower over me in 3- or 4- or 5-inch stiletto heels. But when they walk, many of
them jerk and spasm and shuffle, unsure on their feet, like a parade of new-born
horses.
My friend Jo, who lives in Yerevan now after a few years
of continuous travel, likes to rate the places she visits on a stiletto scale.
The posher places tend to rank high in number of stilettos, while the places
she prefers to frequent, like the Music Factory, have a low stiletto rating.
What did I conclude from hordes of perfectly made up,
beautiful women? That perhaps a woman who never leaves the house without makeup
and her 5-inch heels on, even when going to the corner market, is a woman who
expects (demands?) flowers to pacify her when she is upset. If the occasion is
really special, maybe only jewelry will suffice.
My second hint came at a weekly outdoor film viewing at
an acquaintance’s house in Yerevan. The event, called the Screenery,
shows an eclectic range of documentaries and art house films and on the night
Flounder and I attended they were showing a documentary about female football
(that’s soccer for the American readers) players in Armenia. The film,
according to the Screenery’s organizer, is a controversial one touching on
gender issues in Armenia and wielding some hefty criticism toward Armenian men.
I was excited to watch it, as I am an unabashed feminist
in the sense that I believe men and women have equal value and deserve equal
opportunities. I also think that women should be able to decide the trajectory
of their lives. Shocking stuff, right? In many places in the world, however,
these views make me a radical.
Apparently Armenia is one of those places. The female
football players in the documentary lamented how difficult it was to upset gender
expectations in the country. There are some activities and behaviors, they
said, that are for men only. Playing football, for example, or smoking on the
street. According to men interviewed in the film, women, if they want to smoke
at all, should have the self-control to only do so in their homes.
‘Do men need to control themselves?’ the football players
asked. The unspoken answer seemed to be no.
Gender roles are tough nuts to crack, though. One of the
players spoke of getting married as a given, another of having children as the
pinnacle of a woman’s existence, and a third thanked her husband for allowing
her to play football even while she took care of her family.
The documentary shed light on feminism and gender issues
in Armenia and gave me further insight into this 24-hour flower shop business.
Perhaps, I posited further, in a culture when women are
expected to be obedient to their fathers and then their husbands, in a culture
where women are expected to stick to their rigidly prescribed gender roles
while men are not expected to control themselves, perhaps here flower
emergencies can exist. When there are indiscretions, infidelities, forgotten
birthdays and anniversaries, and an expectation of women being coddled and
pampered then there will be flower emergencies.
The more I thought about it, the more I wondered where Yerevan’s
24-hour jewelry shops are.
Are you still in Yerevan? I am an MUM Literature graduate too. Let's meet up, if you are interested. Vahagn
ReplyDeleteHi Vahagn! I'm sorry to say that we are no longer in Yereven! Currently in Turkey, in Gaziantep :) Do you live in Yerevan? We really enjoyed the city and the whole country is just awesome!
DeleteSorry, I didn't even seen this reply until now. Thank you for your kind words. Yes, I live in Yerevan, and I am glad you enjoyed it. Come visit again :)
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